We let ourselves to be the Dogs - not in good sense.
'The title is only in reference to our attitude of disposable dignity'.
I was traveling in a car with my daughter and her friend around midnight. We attended the annual function of her school and I promised her friend to drop her at home enroute so she joined us.
Let me give you a back story. We have seen boys and men in the function behave like normal with girls around them having real fun and all. When they are not around their behaviour changes instantly, passing lewd comments and enjoying those moments as if it gives them more pleasure. This has been quite common these days in any congregation. I would presume this has come from the parents or the society around. We have reached a stage of this as acceptable. Unless this course correction is made from the basic age we are just hoping to fall everything in the right place. Obviously it will not, because it has not fallen in place all these years. We have seen happening around.
The value of conversation is to gain knowledge or have fun. First, Knowledge gaining conversations are considered boring but it has helped us and humanity well. This has obvious results we see. Second, having fun. We are rubbing the wrong end of the Alladins Lamp to get fun. We are okay to cross any limits to be fun, cool with friends. We gain friends in proportional to the amount of cool and fun we are. In this process we left the decorum and decency way behind. It is fine and acceptable and we are flowing with the river. Even a pea sized of our brain would not pay attention to these as we conveniently made it normal and casual, making it slide through.
Coming back to the first sentence. We are in the car during the late night and there is no traffic and people around. We approached the crossroads and there were dogs having sex. Since there are no distractions we all noticed and it was awkward. I was sitting with the driver and the children are behind. My daughter is 16 and so her friend. They are murmuring and making sure I don't hear. That was so ugly. We went home. Woke up in the morning and this memory file is open in my mind. I would recall about the function, behaviour of the boys, and this incident. I began to think. The boys who behave lewd, make distasteful advances towards girls are nothing but dogs on the street. They have no desire to have some dignity. Dogs don't need dignity as their pleasure is important to them. Their acts doesn't attract civilized manners. For a moment, I also thought that I shouldn't equate men/boys who behave such with dogs but I couldn't find any other justification to correct myself. Treating women/girls in such disrespect, advances without her consent, back talk about them in a pathetic level is so disgraceful, passing comments in public without heed to self-respect and theirs, the list goes on. And we have made it acceptable. The children who still be part of the group is only carrying those unacceptable theme further and making it okay.
We need to educate children that these unacceptable acts need to stop. As a boy we have to put the dignity of the girl/women beyond our own. Even a girl agrees to ignore those we are the ones to take the initiative to correct ourselves, rethink and never repeat. When we ask a girl out one should ensure she is respectfully treated and when she says no it is to be treated as such, no questions asked.
I have to see such a gentleman being called Cool dude who treats women well and he not losing any dignity and respect within himself and in the girls eye. We live in a society where mutual respect and dignity goes a long way to our civilized society. I am not advocating for any female dominance here but only for dignity of men because when we look back we are not in a position to meet the eye with ourselves. That is how life's worthy enough and well spent.
~Seriously not disrespecting the Dogs but dignity is not their concern. Ours should be.
